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The Core of the Argument

Wow, friends, how terrifying it is to realize how much we've been apologizing in our attempts to advocate. It's very telling of how deeply engrained sexism is in our socio-political system, dominating the conversation even from our own podiums.

More articles and approaches like this one, please, that recognize the female experience as the core of the argument instead of reducing it to the image of a tenuous weapon that defends us feebly against the colossal opinion of the patriarchy.

"We’ve been reactive rather than proactive. To deflect immediate attacks, we fall in with messaging that unconsciously encodes the vision of the other side. Abortion opponents say women seek abortions in haste and confusion. Pro-choicers reply: Abortion is the most difficult, agonizing decision a woman ever makes. Opponents say: Women have abortions because they have irresponsible sex. We say: rape, incest, fatal fetal abnormalities, life-risking pregnancies. These responses aren’t false exactly. Some women are genuinely ambivalent; some pregnancies are particularly dangerous. But they leave out a large majority of women seeking abortions, who had sex willingly, made a decision to end the pregnancy and faced no special threatening medical conditions. We need to say that women have sex, have abortions, are at peace with the decision and move on with their lives. We need to say that is their right, and, moreover, it’s good for everyone that they have this right: The whole society benefits when motherhood is voluntary. When we gloss over these truths we unintentionally promote the very stigma we’re trying to combat."